21 Aug 2012

Grief

I have heard it said that grief cannot be processed like feelings can and I agree with that only from a very literal position. I see grief as a state of being, a collection of feelings that need to be felt. So granted, a state of being is not a feeling and therefore the state of grief is not 'processed'. The individual feelings can be though and were I to not allow those feelings their time and expression, I run the risk of further traumatising myself.

My understanding of grief is that the head and the heart are both overwhelmed so my heart will feel loss, anger, sadness, hurt, etc and my head will go through denial, bargaining, resentment, etc and only when I go through the whole range will my grief begin to subside.

I have seen too many people incapacitated by unresolved grief to ignore the importance of this natural life process so I give myself permission to grieve and I place no conditions upon myself for what I might grieve - I will simply allow myself to move through it as best I can with love, faith and grace xx